Speaking Cleanly and the Action of Identifying Discourse

Have you ever attended a conference or meeting, a lecture or even engaged in a conversation where at the end of the presentation you and others have gone away with many unanswered questions or confused as a result of an unclear presentation of material or subject matter?


This has been my experience, too often, and after attending decades of conferences, lectures and meetings and in different countries, I've noticed that generally people are not very "clear," thinkers or confident and honest speakers.


Some people do not take the time to confirm the information they receive through communications, while others use excessive emotional language or provide erroneous information as they present their ideas, and in doing so actually lose focus, lose sight of their audience and misconvey their message.

Which type of communicator are you? 


Do you think ideas through thoroughly?

Do you confirm that your audience is attentive and clearly understanding your message? 

When you speak to people and people speak to you, do either of you confirm with the other what was said, for the sake of clarity? 

Do you take the time to think about what you will say before you speak?

Do you listen actively to your own thoughts as well as you listen to the ideas of others?

Why is any of this important?

As a traveling member of the global community for over 20 years, I’ve noticed that unclear communication presents an obvious challenge for certain people when communicating, and I’ve witnessed disagreements lead to unnecessary arguments and heated debates.

What may be the issue?

Less and less people actively confirm what they have said to someone and would usually ask at the end of their statement “Do you understand me?” They may believe the other person understands them fully, yet this may not be true. The other person may only be answering “Yes,” as a way of being agreeable and moving the conversation along.

Confirmation Activity is key at this moment. 

For example:

“Let me confirm what I am saying.” Or “Please allow me to confirm what you are saying.” These small phrases will allow for a moment to clarify statements, to parse out an exact meaning of statements and also to correct and misunderstanding which may exist.” This process also lays a persons’ intention out with clarity. While engaging in confirmation activity, I have often observed people completely rephrase or adjust the point which they originally made so that the other person understands their idea more fully.


This process usually takes up a bit more time, yet in the end it is a more peaceable and peaceful way of conducting conversation, sharing ideas and clearly understanding others viewpoints. 

What is it exactly that we are referring to when we discuss the idea of "peace?" What do we actually mean when we speak about the "world," or the global community. Do we actually mean our world as in our unique region, or our neighborhood? 

Together, how can we speak much more clearly and effectively as we present our ideas? Moreover, how can we work together to determine whether or not we are actually discussing the real or even the same issues which cause confusion in conversation about our diverse communities?

Lets start with a review of basic definitions of the words 

Identifying and Discourse:

Identifying ↔ Discourse

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